Monday, February 27, 2017

Random


  • Per Cora's new fetish of the stick on earrings...  it's been a bust.  Literally as I wrote about them last week, Ryan was telling me that she was getting into trouble at school with the 'earrings'.  She'll take them off and try to put them back on, throwing a fit when she can't get them back on (and have them stick).  She shows them to her friends all the time, etc.  So... results - we don't wear the stick on earrings to school anymore.  She ruined it.  
  • Iowa weather has been super random.  Last week we were in the 70s, over the weekend we had snow, gusty winds and about 30s for highs.  And now this week, it looks to be in the 40s.  So confusing!
  • I've talked over the past couple months about Ryan's cousin, Colby and his basketball career at Central College.  He's done amazing... so well, has broken records even!  We've really enjoyed watching him over the past 4 years.  His season came to an end on Saturday night...  we weren't able to go to the last game, as we had plans, but we watched the game live --- and they were up for most of the game, then ended up losing.  Colby had hurt his ankle the game before... and was super sore, but 'drugged' for the Saturday game.  It was a bummer to end on that note for him, but we are so proud of him.  And I know Kayson loved watching him. 
  • 97 days til our vacation.  Not that I'm counting.  :)

Weekend

It's Monday already.  YUK YUK. I think all of us just wanted to stay in bed this morning...  all cozy, and catching up from our weekend. 

Friday:
I took Friday off from work, and it was heaven.  I love 3 day weekends!  After the kids and Ryan were off... I sat in the chair with Murphy and watched the Today show, and may or may not have snoozed for a bit.  :)  Again - heaven.  I enjoyed every minute of it. 

Then I got cleaned up... and did a few errands (actually just walked around a few stores).  I met Lacey for lunch...  chips, salsa, cheese dip and a daiquiri, and lots of laughs.  Perfect lunch.  By the time we were done chatting... I went and got the kids.  It started snowing actually around that time...  so we hustled home and just hung out.  

Friday night my friend, Jess had a CABI party (clothing).  I have never been to one, so I decided I would go for a bit...  an hour later, I purchased a few very expensive items, and headed home.  OOps.  Ryan and the kiddos just stayed in... and then we all just hung out.  Nice quiet snowy Friday night. 

Saturday:
We had nothing planned during the day...  so it was my cleaning and laundry day.  We had a nice day at home.  Ryan worked out...  the kids and I got our workout in by shoveling the small amount of snow that we got.  It was fairly nice out (no wind), so we played outside for quite a bit...  got the sled out and I pulled the kids 1,000 times down our very small hill on the side yard.  They loved it. 

Saturday night we went over to Colleen and Mike's... pizza, laughs, basketball and 7 kids playing.  We had a nice time.  Always fun to be with them.

Sunday:
Church - I taught Kayson's Sunday School class again... and it went well.  I think better than the last time I taught.  We had fun, and the kids listened to me.  :)   We grabbed lunch out, then home to just hang out.  We made Cora rest...  she woke with a little cough Friday, and it was really loosening up by Saturday night (which is great), but we just felt like she needed some quiet time.  And she didn't fight us, so it was a win.  She rested about an hour. Perfectly fine with us.

And then Sunday night our church was hosting a 'game night' for adults and kiddos.  I kind of helped organize it, and it was awesome.  We had a great turnout (unlike last years!)...  we had about 22 people, which is GREAT.  Kids played, adults played... we ordered pizza and just had a super time.  It was the best I've felt in a long time...  it just went so well.  

We were out a little later than we had wanted to be, but it was worth it.  So we rushed home...  got kids cleaned up, and to bed.  

and now it's Monday.  
Here are a few pics from the snow on Saturday. 






Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Cora-ism's #2

January 2017
The girl loves music.  Period. 
When the Super Bowl was on - we were doing random things, playing, coloring, doing baths, etc...  but the SECOND that half time music came on --- Cora was up and dancing her little heart out.  Literally.  She danced through the entire half time show.  I have it on video, and I'm not going to lie - she does awesome!!! 

February 2017
More music stuff.
We have the Trolls soundtrack in my car... and Cora sings all of the songs. Yesterday morning I had to take her to school, so she was just singing her little heart out... and I said to her (smiling ear to ear) - "Cora - gosh I love you so much!"  She stopped singing and says - "I love you too Mom, but turn that music up!!"  :)  She still wants to 'watch' herself in my rear view mirror, which I think is hysterical.  What a little girl.  :)


About a week ago, Cora came into my room first thing in the morning (she had literally just woke up).  Rubbing her eyes/squinting from the light... and the conversation went like this:
C: "Mom - can I talk to you about something?"
Me: thinking - oh man, what could this be...  "Sure sugar."
C: "Can I wear my valentine's stickers in my ears today?"
Me: thinking - what the heck!?  "well, honey, I'm not sure what you mean... do you mean wear stickers ON your ears, like earrings?"
C: "Yes"
Me: "Well, if you are talking about the red heart stickers we got for Valentine's Day, those will be way too big...  but we can try to find something else.  BUT - honey, if I can't find something now, then don't be upset."
C: "Ok Mom."  She starts to walk away... then turns around and says in a super sweet voice - "I just thought that would be a good idea."

:)

So... in the end I was able to find some teeny tiny bling stickers and we put those on her ears.  They fell off obviously, but she was thrilled.  I purchased a page of stick-on earrings for her, and she LOVES them.  So now we are talking about actually getting her ears pierced...  but she's still a little hesitant.  But we'll get there.  So darn cute.

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Grieving

I've never had to 'grieve' before, until losing Mom.  And I tell you what, it's one of the biggest roller coasters I've ever been through (and I HATE roller coasters!!) and it's also a very long process.  

Typically there are 6 'phases' of grief.  
  • Denial/Shock
  • Anger/Resentment
  • Guilt
  • Depression
  • Loneliness
  • Hope
As of now - I sincerely believe I've been through 4 of them thus far... in nearly 4 months.  I have realized that I go back and forth between a few of them quite often (especially the depression and guilt). But just because I've 'experienced' some of the stages... I truly don't believe that grief will ever really pass.  You don't ever 'move on' from it.  So far, I've just learned to live with it. It's kind of become a part of me and my life right now.   I've just simply adjusted things and the way I feel/think, etc.  I think some day I'll be 'stronger' from this, but right now... I'm not.  When I sit back and really think about all of this, it's amazing.  It's amazing how ones body can handle all of these emotions (sometimes all at the same time), or just one for a very very long time.  I sometimes am just so baffled by how I feel day to day.  I don't like that - because I feel 'crazy' sometimes.  I'm still aching inside...  I try not to show it as much on the outside, but I've truly had a heart-ache every day. I hate having my kiddos see that (when I can't control the outside) and have them not really understand.  I try to explain, but sometimes I just don't want to.  

With Mom...  and it may be different for some others...  I 'lost' her about 4 years ago.  When she began losing her memory, repeating things, then slowing and profoundly doing very odd things...  and then not being able to take care of herself (or Dad)...  I lost her.  We all lost her.  She wasn't our Mom anymore.  She was this person who was lost and didn't know right from wrong, and barely knew the people around her.  The only part of grief I had then (for a couple years) was complete denial.  I didn't want to believe this was happening... and truly wanted it to just all go away and one day she'd wake up and be all better.

We all knew she would die from that terrible disease...  but not in a million years did we think she was pass on October 23, 2016.  Never.  And at about 1:20 that afternoon... that's when my true grieving continued.  

With Mom being gone for almost 4 months now...  it's somewhat unbelievable still.  I still think she's at the farm with Dad from time to time.  I still think she's going to call me every once in awhile.  I still think she's spending time with Trish and Jill and the kiddos in Clarion.   I still think she's driving her red truck around town, getting her Diet Coke and cleaning the church.  I still think... and I still want her to do all of those things.

With these short 4 months...  I've realized that there's not just the anniversary of her death.  There's more.   It's not the yearly events either, like birthdays or special holidays, it's about random days when my mind wanders and I think/remember all the things about Mom - what she did, how she was and how she loved us.   I remember Mom sitting on our couch helping me fold Kayson's baby clothes before he was born, or when she'd come to our house and clean (because she loved to!).  I remember her disappointment in me when I got a divorce.  I remember then the new love and worry she had for me when I was 'on my own'... and the new love she grew for Ryan.  I remember the way she would cheer for me at my track meets or volleyball games.  I will never ever forget her voice.  I remember her voice when Ryan called and told her Kayson was going to be born on Christmas Day.  

I definitely haven't reached the "Hope" stage.  I don't have much hope right now...  as I struggle with nerves and worries.  I may have a little hope knowing that Mom is 'better', but I don't have much hope for my future (when it comes to Alzheimer's).  I still am concerned I'll have this terrible disease or my kiddos will have it.  I know it's a long ways down the road, but I think about it, a lot. 

Grieving is hard... and I don't wish this upon anyone.  Each day is new and different for me...  and I just continue to pray daily that I (along with my Dad and sisters) can get through the days.  I miss my family terribly...  and miss Mom even more.

Monday, February 20, 2017

Weekend - Kiddos meet their new cousin!

The weather here in Iowa has been amazing...  spring like conditions (sometimes a tad warm in the sun!).  Friday when we got home... the kiddos played outside with the neighbor kids.  I sat outside with them as well...  talked with the little girls and giggled.  It was pretty sweet.  
Ryan had a drink with a coworker up at Jethros... so we ended up meeting him up there for a quick supper.  Then back home to bed. 

Saturday morning we got up and at em... headed out the door around 8:00 to Sioux City.  It was the best time for us (and them) to get over there to have the kids meet Rhett.  That Taylor household has been busy this past week and half of Rhett's life...  and we added to the chaos!  

The minute we got there...  Cora was all in with Rhett.  She loved him from the minute she saw him... it was the sweetest thing ever.  She held him at least 100 times!  (I might be exaggerating, but she did hold him a lot - and she did awesome with him).  :)   Kayson wasn't as interested in holding him, however, he was super sweet with Rhett --- talking to him, and touching his hands...  he did hold him once, and Kayson said "That was nice."  Sweet.  

Basically our Saturday was filled with tending to the 'big kids' - playing then fighting, then playing, then pouting.  I'm ready for them to be big and not have to deal with that!  (I shouldn't say that...  I don't want them to grow up, but then I kind of do!!!)  Regardless, they were outside most of the day too, so that was good.  There were times during the day that I honestly kind of forgot about Rhett - he is such a good baby!  :)  Super sweet.

Sunday we got up and hung out...  then Rhett was having his newborn photo shoot done, so I went with Martina to that.  They had Tate and Lanny come too for a few sibling shots, which they did well...  then they left to go back to the house.  Martina and I enjoyed a couple hours at the photographers studio...  the photographer was great, and super patient!  Pretty cool.  Rhett did amazing.  :)

Then from there...  lunch was had... and we got on the road about 2:00.  Exhausted. 

And to top off our exhaustion, we had pizza plans with Mart's Sunday night.  I mean it worked out great, cuz I obviously didn't have time to get to the grocery store, but we were tired.  BUT - we had a nice visit with them, and the kids did do well.  Success.  

Here are some pics from the weekend...








See them?  Stick on earrings.  hahaha.  :)
  

Sunday, February 12, 2017

Weekend

Friday:
Boy 'date' - girl 'date'.  
Ryan, Kayson, Uncle Scott and Duke went to the Iowa Wild hockey game.  They had a great time...  Ryan's work has season tix, and they are 'right on the ice'.  Like on the glass!  Crazy close.  Ryan said Kayson was just amazed. 
They got home pretty late, but had a good time.  We have to laugh at the things Kayson said - like "Everyone around us was drunk Mom".  Oh my!  And Ryan said they "may have heard some interesting language around them!"  Again, oh boy!  Oh well.  I'm glad they had fun.


Cora and I went out and had a quick supper, which she ate great.  Then we bought a new soft big blanket for Rhett.  It's kind of the 'thing' we do... Cora did great picking something out.  We had like 4 to start with, then kept eliminating one.   I hope Aunt Tina likes it!  :)

Then we went back home and she watched a movie.  It was a very nice Friday night.


Saturday:
I went up to Ankeny to watch Eden and Lindsay play some volleyball.  They typically have a tourny in Ankeny, and it worked out to get up there.  I just went alone, which was good.  Daddy needed time with the kids!  ha.  The girls did awesome... ended up getting 2nd place overall.  Super proud.  I watched a couple winning matches.  It was good to catch up with Jill and Dad too... Trish and Greg coach, so pretty much said hello and that was it to them!

We had a quick lunch, then headed to Pella to watch Colby again.  It was 'senior' night.  I can't believe he's been in school for 4 years, and graduating so soon!  We are super proud of Colby.  



We got home late... the kids were wiped out.  We skipped Cora's rest again... and it was probably a mistake.    We have decided if we have stuff going on that afternoon/evening, we just can't skip it.  We need to go back to having her rest.  She was pretty much a hot mess by the end of the basketball game - and then was awful at supper.  (Until Daddy had to holler at her!)   We'll get it figured out.  

Sunday:
Church.  Speaking of church --- things are changing at our church.  I feel like I need to write this down, so I can keep a timeline, etc.  In a nutshell - someone/a business has offered to purchase our church's land and building (to build their business there).  HUGE bummer... and stress for our little church family.  Then last week we were informed that our current (wonderful by the way) pastor has put in her resignation/retirement.   I think everyone is in shock a little regarding the retirement...  and then also very sad.  Pastor Sue has done some very good things (in the short years we've been there), including helping Ryan through some things, and also talking with me on my grief and hurt.  I know she's been a huge help to others as well.  So...  our little church needs some serious prayers to get through all of these changes.  Ryan's been a big part of the church board (he does the finances), so I know he's got a lot on his mind.  I just pray that we all can stay a close family through all of this, and keep our current members.  Lots of praying!!!

Then the rest of our Sunday was our normal stuff --- groceries, laundry, cooking.  I literally didn't sit down til about 5:30.  Wiped out.  

Cora was a mess again...  but I tell you what, she was asleep within minutes.  Guess there are some pros to the no rest thing.  More to come.  We'll have a messed up weekend next weekend (traveling), so we'll have to figure something out!

Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Baby Taylor #3

As of this morning - around 8:30, Blair and Martina welcomed another baby into this crazy world!  Rhett Thomas weighed 7 lbs 2 oz, 20 inches long.  He's perfect.  Literally.  :)

Martina has c-sections, so this was all 'planned'.  Originally we were just going to stay away (since it's a 3 hour trip) and we knew it would be hard to get away during the week.  But last week Ryan mentioned that we probably should head over.  It ended up working out perfectly - we took today off and surprised them by making the trip.  It was awesome.  I had mentioned to Blair last night that we were thinking of coming, but wanted it to be a surprise for Martina.  We got to Sioux City and she wasn't quite ready for visitors yet... so we visited with Ryan's folks and Martina's folks, then it was time to meet Rhett.  

Martina saw me first in the hallway... and she instantly had tears, which then made me tear up too.  I loved it.  I loved every second.  

Anyway, we were able to spend about 4 hours at the hospital - not all with them, but just enough time to visit and snuggle on Rhett.  Yeah, it was a short trip, but it was great.  

We will go back the 18th of February with the kiddos...  just us, spend some more time there and have the kids meet their new cousin. 

Here are a few pics of the little guy.  So sweet.




Sunday, February 5, 2017

Weekend

Friday...  well, Friday was an interesting day for me.  We all got up, went to work/school... great.  Then around 9:30, while I was at work... I got all antsy and that nervous stomach feeling.  (this is something that's been going on quite a bit lately with me).  But Friday - I literally could.not.shake.it.  I went home.  And I slept.  For 4 hours.  I woke up, and cried.  Hard.  I hate this feeling...  I hate the feeling of just not being quite sure what's going on with me.  I'm happy, truly am.  But I think I just 'think' way too much.  I get that worrying thing from my Dad.  It's in my chemistry.  and that chemistry sucks right now.  :)   I also feel this is again part of the grieving...  a little of the depression stage.  

Once everyone (Ryan and kids) were home.  I was better.  Like instantly.  I just want to be with them all the time.  And only them.   Such weird feelings and thoughts.  It's amazing how they can ease me, but also make me crazy at the same time.  :)

Anyway...  Friday we stayed in.  Ate left over pizza, then did a quick run to Scheel's.  Kayson needed shoes terribly.  Like his old ones had a hole in them.  Good thing we haven't had any snow!!  ha.   Shoes were bought... then we let the kiddos play for about 20 minutes.  Home and bed.

Side note - Dad was suppose to go on a church mission trip Saturday (for about a week), he has come down with a terrible cough/cold (lost his voice), so he skipped.  I, along with my sisters, were super bummed.  He totally needed to do this trip - get away and do something for HIMSELF, and some others besides Mom.  It broke my heart a little... and just made me worry about him more.  

Saturday:
Miss thing was up early - 6:15.  WHAT.  She watched cartoons for awhile, but I couldn't really get back to sleep.  Ryan got up and worked out, then did some stuff out at our church.  The kids and I hung out at home... had a good morning.  Cleaning, playing, laundry, more playing, and groceries...  it was a nice morning. 

We had Cora skip her nap again...  and it went fairly well.  Saturday afternoon we did a few errands together - buying Valentine's for the kids' classrooms.  Then we grabbed a quick dinner out, then took the kids swimming.  They (and us) were all worn out!!!  

Sunday:
Church.  Lunch. and just home.  We didn't go anywhere this afternoon/evening, and I loved it.  I got groceries on Saturday, so today was just a home day.  I needed it.  The kids have been really good...  playing well too.  I've made some snacky foods for supper and was are just going to hang.  

I finally took a few pictures... and finally uploading them.  They are 'heavy' for Cora, but she likes her pic taken.  :)
They play well together - made a 'fort' of toys around them.

First snow...  it wasn't much, but Kayson was right out there.



Feeding baby dolls always.
She likes when Murphy sits with her.

Does she look 14????  (Wearing my shoes)

Sweet.
She was laughing at something on TV